How Mediation Works

It works in the way that is best for your family.

You can choose to come to a first free meeting on your own or with a another family member or you and your former partner can come together - you will still get some time on your own with the mediator.

After that, the mediator will meet with you both in a series of meetings. You will each have an idea of what problems or issues need to be resolved but your ideas may be different. The mediator will help you find the issues on which you can readily agree and then work with you and your former partner to find the best solution to the other matters.

That was then. This is now.

There are as many reasons for separation as there are couples who separate. No matter how friendly, most separations bring sadness, blame or sometimes a sense of failure. These feelings are natural and important, but they will not help the mediation process. Mediators may acknowledge your feelings of hurt and anger but if you feel you need to work on those feelings you may want to consider also some therapy or counselling. We can tell you where you can get such help.